Monday, August 1, 2011

Molestation : what should a child know

Molestation is an ugly word. But still everyone needs to know what it is. Touching and exploiting someone sexually is molestation. A child should always be explained what is the difference between good and bad touch. Along with this if a child complains about a bad touch it should be taken seriously and a steps should be taken against this.

Today I am saying this because I was a victim. A victim of child abuse, a victim of adolescent molestation and it continues. But I can proudly say that I had all the strength to fight this as an adolescent. 

When I was a child I went to see a doctor , a skin specialist for something which had happened on my face. I realised that the behaviour of the doctor was weird and I was at first scared. Then I told my parents and they made me feel it was ok and they just did not complain about this anywhere. The only solution they came to was : not to take me to that doctor anymore. This happened when I was in class 6th. 

Another incident happened when I was in UKG!! My neighbour a guy 6 years older to me, whom I addressed as 'Bhaiya' (brother) insisted in playing s game where he would be my husband : he tried to just touch me, I was terrified and ran away. I told this to his sister but she said I should just shut up and that her brother was mad. 

But I understood one thing , this had nothing to do with my age, my clothes or anything else. It was because of the demon in those men.

Later when someone tried to do something similar I had my answer ready. I had practiced hard, I knew how to hit so hard that any man would fall down bleeding and that is what I have always followed.

I too was a timid girl but I decided to fight and not be scared.

The best you can do is to spread the message and teach your kids what is good and what is bad and support them when they encounter anything bad.


  1. I agree with you Sneha,
    but i don't agree with the proposal of government to start sex education.
    sex is not the thing which children should learn before 18 years....
    This is ridiculous when govt gives permission of sex at the age of 16 and for marriage at the age of 18...
    as far as molestation is concern it is obviously a worst thing and must be prevented by strict law...
    but as an when KALIYUG is progressing nobody would stop it to be happened...
    This happens because of only one reason MOVIES.
    Censor board must act strictly.

    But instead of becoming strict those bastard permit any movie with any certificate. eg. Dilli Belli

    My only question to Ambika Soni (minister of Broadcasting) is DON'T YOU FIND ANY OBSCENITY IN THE SONG D.K.BOSS?
    If not then play it in front of your children.

  2. Ah you got a bit out of context here. I do not mean they should not know anything before 18, that would be pretty hazardous you see..

  3. I completely agree with u Sneha sex education is very much required from the very initial level for Childrens cz they dont know about as to what is correct and what is wrong thus according to me. Sex Education is Very vital point of Concern at this point of time. According to me every School should provide this education first rather being tought of the bookish knowledge.....

  4. very few people would share something like this.. if on a survey was taken.. 90% of the girls would have gone thru some sex abuse in younger age and mostly with out knowing.. high time.. govt put some rule for such things!! :( But, dismal fact is that, not many of us accept it, cause still it is a bad mark on the victim not the guilty!!

  5. Hats off to your courage for sharing this. Your this post can open the eyes of many.

  6. wow,thats a nice rightly needs to be told to every child,I just hope there are more victims who can stand up for thenselves rather then be timid..

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